Bounceback Ability

How resilient are you?

Does the smallest setback in your business or personal life become a major drama? And does a major setback in your personal or business life become a total catastrophe?

How easy do you find it to bounce back from adversity? Some people seem to have amazing resilience to bounce back from personal or business failure but for others it can be far more difficult and potentially lead to significant health issues.

By showing external resilience it does not mean that you are unaffected by events, more that they have worked out how to deal with setbacks and have strong coping mechanisms as a result.

We can all work on our capability to bounce back from adversity. Here are seven hints and tips that will help.

Be happy with excellent even though you’re striving for superb.

There really is no such thing as total perfection so settling for completion of the project that is very good, or excellent, will reduce your stress levels and enable you to move on to the next project.

Take time out.

Even in the busiest of days it is important to give yourself some “me time“. This might involve reading, a hobby or exercise.

Do something different.

By signing up for a course at the local college or Joining a local sports club you will develop your relationships with others and boost your physical and mental well-being. 

Spend time with positive people.

It is widely known that some people can suck the energy out of the room; these people are known as mood hoovers and you should avoid them at all costs! Surround yourself with supportive friends and positive acquaintances. This is good for confidence and your own belief in yourself.

Keep active.

Staying in good health is important for resilience therefore aim for 30 minutes a day of moderate activity.


Good relationships are key to resilience and there is nothing better than A good chat with a good friend or relative to affect the quality of your relationships.

Time is a healer.

Remember that no matter how bad things might seem at the moment due to a business failing or relationship breakdown, such bad times to pass And you will emerge a stronger person in due course.

Please note however that if you are experiencing extreme distress on an ongoing basis then you should seek professional help as well as taking the advice above.

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Is your glass half full or half empty?

Geraldine, a fictional character of Flip Wilson, humorously quipped, “You get what you see”. Shakespeare voiced a more literary opinion when he said, “The perception of good or bad does not exist; only thinking makes it to be so”. It is Buddha who said it as it should be, “The life one leads, is a creation of oneself mind”.

Can you think of a better way to describe life that how Buddha, fictional Geraldine and Shakespeare did. Your life is like your own creation; it turns out just like you mould it.

So what does that mean to us?

The glass half empty mindset,

For those who do not view life through objective lenses, they are subjective beings. If you filter what you see in life then you are a biased individual. That is personality and everyone carries his or her own.

Pessimists will see differently to their optimistic colleagues. In the same vein, introverts see things in differently to extroverts. And life seems to reward us in equal measure of what we are or what we belief in. For instance, if you are anxious everything around you can seem fast paced and out of control; if you are inclined towards depression, your life will have a greyness about it.

Whatever perspective you have in life will characterise everything you do in your life. If you see your work as a chore, it will be so as long as you think this way. Your perception will also affect those around you and if they are not independent thinkers, you run the risk of being surrounded by negativity.

The glass half full mindset.

A massive body of research agrees that there is a lot of power in seeing the glass half full. Bright, optimistic people are not only generally happier but also healthier and wealthier according to research. All three – happiness, health and wealth - are what make a complete life.

In a study by a reputable psychologist, Susan Segerstorm, law students who held onto their optimism ten years after graduation took home an annual salary of $32,667 more than their colleagues who had lost their hope.

Keeping a positive mindset will drive you towards actions that will deliver positive results. It does not matter if you hit a bad patch; keeping optimism with you will deliver good results.

In fact, thinking of bad stuff will actually drive you into poor results. Instead of doing things that will minimize your failure, you will instead do nothing or do stupid things that will amplify your failures.

Happy and optimistic people will attract friends who are similar in character and their positivity will be infectious so a virtuous circle of friends, colleagues and contacts will be created. The opposite is true for natural pessimists. 

How to change into a glass half full person

So, how do you stay optimistic in the face of failures and distractions?

Create opportunities out of your problems – instead of seeing a work issue as a chore, see it as a challenge with which you can impress your colleagues.

Going networking? Don’t dread walking into a room full of strangers, see it as an opportunity to meet new people, walk tall, smile and ask questions. And remember, most of the people you are meeting are probably nervous as well as you.

Package yourself as an optimist and life will smile back to you = like poles attract.

Set out to do something out of your comfort zone and find your confidence and self esteem grow as a result.

In summary.

The life of someone with a positive mindset is likely to be more fulfilling than that of someone who is constantly negative about everything. That said, even the most positive people have setbacks and personal issues but they seem to be able to bounce back from adversity whereas the negative person accepts it as par for the course of their life. Try to avoid the negative route – it’s easier than you think!


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