Do you have a healthy relationship with your
mobile phone? Are you able to lead completely separate lives and not be inter
dependent on one another?!
If you are, then you are one of the rare breed that
is not totally reliant on their mobile phone, and will not suffer from
Nomophobia when they are parted either by accident or design. However, if you
are one of the majority who aren’t, then when you leave that phone at home by
mistake you will probably spend the rest of your day fretting and fidgeting –
does that describe you?
These days most of us carry our mobiles with us
and rarely turn them off. Our phone is often the last thing we look at before
we go to sleep and the first thing we check when we wake up. Incoming emails,
texts and other notifications constantly disturb us and one study reported that
the average user checked their phone at least 85 times a day. Is this
Our phones can be our main lifeline to family,
friends, business colleagues and other networks. However the best human
relationships are the face-to-face ones with another person and phones can
never replace those meaningful connections.
How many of us have seen couples in a social
surroundings, such as a restaurant or pub, sitting across the table from one
another but with both of them being on their mobiles, more in touch with
Facebook and football than with each other?
Even the very presence of phones seems to
prevent deeper and more meaningful conversations. One study has found that
people feel less connected to other people in a conversation when a mobile is
present. In other words, when it is sitting on the table next to them. People
feel that if this phone was to go off the conversation would be cut short and
the phone call or message would be far more important.
Constantly checking your phone can easily become
a habit, but it is one that you can break.
Do a phone fast:
Start with one or two days a week without using
certain apps such as Facebook or other social media platforms.
Begin and end your day by not looking urgently
at your phone. Read a book when you go to bed rather than scan the latest
When you’re out eating with friends, family or
your partner make sure that everyone's mobiles are out of sight or even
better, left at home.
Try taking a break from your phone for a
certain length of time each day. It is a routine you will learn to enjoy!
Nomophobia Is a real condition we have written about
elsewhere so try to bring yourself back into the more social world and
experiment doing without your phone for periods of time during the day, week,
month, it will be good for you in the long run!
Mayfair we care.
We are rarely very far from our smartphones these days, they are as much a part a necessity everywhere we go as the clothes that we wear! As a result some very bad habits have developed. Some are thoughtless, others
downright rude, several are bad for business or relationships and the most
serious can be life threatening. In short, the majority of us are not so smart
when it comes to mobile phone use. See which categories you fit into:
In the car
If you are the driver it is illegal in many countries to use
a mobile phone whilst the car is moving. Checking social media – your emails or
texts, as well as texting or talking on the phone unless you have hands-free
technology endangers not only your life but the lives of others. It’s irresponsible
but so many drivers flout the law.
In staff meetings with colleagues
A recent Intel survey of HR managers said that mobile phones
ringing during a meeting were top of the ‘mobile irritation’ league table! Very
close was the annoyance caused by having the phone on vibrate – good mobile
etiquette recommends silent or off completely.
At sales pitches
Many people will put their mobiles on the table during sales
pitches – this is not a great idea! This sends out the wrong signal about how
serious you are about being there and first impressions count. Good mobile
etiquette is for the phone to be out of sight and on silent and it’s also better
On public transport
Loud and lengthy phone calls on the bus or train are known
to be a massive irritant to fellow passengers. Is it really necessary to raise
your voice so that everyone can hear about the importance of the deal that is
just going through, or what you fancy for dinner that night? Good mobile
etiquette would be a quiet brief conversation saying you will ring back when
you are somewhere more private.
In restaurants with your partner
How many people have been out for the evening and looked
around at tables with couples barely communicating as they gaze at their shiny smartphones
and text their friends or catch up on Facebook. If you want to spend quality
social time with someone perhaps it would be a better idea to leave that phone
at home or in a pocket?
One recent American survey has recorded that we check our phones 80 (yes eighty!) times a day even on holiday! Give yourself, and your travelling companions, friends, family etc a break and leave your phone in the suitcase for use only in emergencies! You don't need it on the beach, by the pool or sightseeing........do you?!
I am probably only scratching at the surface of irritating
mobile phone habits here – what are the ones that annoy you – let’s get them
all out there!!
Mayfair we care.