Are you one of life‘s
Consider yourself a perfectionist if:
You can’t stop thinking about every little mistake
You can’t stand being second in anything you do.
Any project that you undertake must be absolutely
You expect the highest standards of other people.
You will never ask for help because you feel it is
a sign of weakness.
You will persist with a task long after other
people would have considered the task complete.
You are a fault-finding who corrects other people
when they are wrong.
You are highly aware of other people’s demands and
You are very self-conscious about making mistakes
in front of other people and dwell on it afterwards.
will also have a keen eye for detail and push themselves to achieve personal
goals, their work will exceed expectations and their ambitions will know no
has indicated that perfectionism can be linked to emotional, physical and
relationship problems including anxiety, depression, eating disorders and
What people think about perfection
perfectionist traits are also linked to successful high achievers due to their
high standards and high expectations. Highly successful actress Gwyneth Paltrow
is one such perfectionist who has also suffered marital and relationship
the strive for perfection has brought about much debate over the years.
Consider these three very different outlooks:
“Perfection is the enemy of success. “ Winston
“When you aim for perfection you discover that it
is a moving target. “ Geoffrey F Fisher
“Striving for excellence motivates you; striving
for perfection is demoralising”. Harriet Bralker
these quotations indicates that true perfection does not exist.
first one Churchill believes that time will be wasted by striving for perfection,
whilst in the second quotation Fisher suggests that perfection is always just
out of reach.
quotation by Bralker confirms this by suggesting that the pursuit of absolute
perfection is demoralising, (perhaps because it is unattainable) and excellence
should be good enough.
indicated earlier, striving for perfection which is always just out of reach
can cause mental illness. There is wide research that suggests that both
perfectionism and mental health issues have been on the increase over the last
20 years. This has coincided with the rise of social media where everyone lives
out their perfect lives, with their perfect families and their perfect careers
in their own perfect world.
to these social media examples put enormous pressure on the individual with
perfectionist tendencies and we will examine this in a future blog
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