Social media and the perfectionist


In May 2019 we wrote about perfectionism and being a perfectionist. In this article we examine how social media has changed the way we look at others and how we judge ourselves.

The rise of social media networks such as Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter has led to various notable changes in our daily lives. And that includes the way we communicate, the opinions we hold of others and the use of technology.

If you take time to look around you, even as you walk down the streets or at any social gathering, you will notice that almost 80% of individuals are often glued to their mobile phones or at least securely holding one in their hand.

That's the true picture of how social media and the perfectionist syndrome is taking a toll on us. And it's for this reason that various society experts are getting worried about the effects of social media networks on our lives. But how serious is this and what's the main reasons behind it? Keep reading to learn more! 

The Rise Of The Perfectionists 

A simple scroll through major social media platforms will instantly reveal that almost everyone is leading their best life. It feels like a virtual competition where everyone wants to be noticed.

A scramble for likes, views, comments, and following defines the life of a heavy social media user.  But is this really what their developers had in mind in the first place? Of course not!

It was meant to be a place for fun. To meet new people, explore opportunities and get a glimpse of the world out there. But users are now taking it too seriously and it's slowly transforming into a place of "survival for the fittest". And as this happens, we as a society are slowly losing focus and falling right into the traps of the social media and the perfectionist theme. 

If you examine carefully, you will notice that most individuals are addicted to their social media or virtual lives. And as much as most of them aren't living their best lives in real life, they do in their virtual worlds and that's where the problem begins.

They can readily go to any extreme to ensure they maintain their social media looks. And that includes borrowing money to purchase/ hire that expensive stuff they keep flaunting on their accounts, go for "trips" or host parties without any trace of shame or guilt.  

While that might not seem like a big issue, the major problem starts when one gets so much into it that they can't simply seem to come into terms with their reality and start chasing unrealistic fantasies. Perfect lives spent with perfect families with perfect friends in a perfect world just isn’t reality but the knock on effect can be serious.

This is when the perfectionists start suffering from various mental issues to the extent of wanting to manipulate the present to compeer with contemporaries for what's not even there in the first place.

Most of them go into depression, experience frustrations and throw around tantrums when they can't keep up with the game. And then there are people that follow others silently and want to emulate whatever their social media "role models" post without critical analysis.

Unknown to them, the posters don't even adhere to what they post on their timelines. Woe unto you if you believe it! 

Take Away 

Everything in life has two sides; the good and the bad. So as much as social media use is great for our social life, we shouldn't turn a blind eye to the rising trend of the social media perfectionist.

What people post is mostly far from reality. That "perfect" photo or video has a story behind it, so before you stress yourself by joining the game, please be aware of the line between reality and fantasy.

Draw it, lest you find yourself deep into the social media perfectionist pit that will only drain you.

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21st Century Illnesses

Is Technology Making You Anxious?                                   

A new epidemic is sweeping the country — and it's being fueled by social media.

Websites like Instagram and Facebook are causing users serious stress, resulting in a spike in anxiety and psychological disorders. This new type of 21st-century illness often impacts teenagers and young adults who use online platforms several times a day.

Research shows that excessive social media image could result in poor body image and feelings of insecurity. So, what's going on?

The Link Between Social Media and Stress

Several studies have looked at the link between social media and stress.

One study looked at how Facebook could cause depressive symptoms in some users [1]. Perhaps this is because of peer pressure. Some young adults post every aspect of their life online, leaving their friends to play "catch-up." What's more, Photoshopped images on social networks like Instagram and Twitter can result in young adults feeling seriously inadequate.

All this may spill over into an even more dangerous territory, with some social media usage resulting in eating disorders and mental health conditions. 

What Can Be Done?

There are a number of ways young adults can curb their social media usage.

Restricting the amount of time they spend on websites like Pinterest and YouTube might solve the problem. In addition, there are various coping mechanisms that help people deal with conditions like stress and anxiety.

Healthcare experts recommend healthy eating and working out as a way to banish the blues [2]. This is because regular exercise releases endorphins, also known as the body's feel-good chemicals. This can help regulate mood and assist social media users with stress.

Other Healthcare Concerns and 21st-Century Illnesses 

The rise of digital media has benefited people and businesses around the world. However, there are a number of drawbacks associated with this recent technology. Some people who frequent websites like Twitter and Facebook might be exposed to cyberbullies, who torment them on these sites. Again, this can have a significant effect on the mental health of some young adults and result in feelings of depression and anxiety. Healthcare experts recommend that people should report cyberbullies.


There is a raft of stressors that are unique to the 21st century. These include the rise of social media sites, which can sometimes cause people to feel anxious, especially if they are exposed to cyber bullies.

It's not all doom and gloom however, social media provides users with a plethora of benefits. People can communicate with friends and family around the world, make new connections and keep their contacts updated with life events. 

Everything in moderation – including social media,

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