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What to Do When You Really Do Not Want To

14. October 2024 Mayfair (0)

We have all experienced it. You know you need to do that thing, but you just cannot seem to make yourself. Yelling at yourself to pull yourself together is not working, nor is reminding yourself of all the terrible things that could happen if you do not do it. So you sit there, frozen, or you distract yourself with tasks that do not matter.


Fortunately, there are proven strategies that build your motivation overall, and techniques that help you find that silver of motivation when it all feels too hard.

We have gathered four strategies from leading motivation experts: Dr Julie Smith, Dr Aleyet Fishbach, Daniel Pink and Scott Geller.

1. “Just do it”

Do not wait for motivation to strike. Act first, then motivation will follow. This is the advice of clinical psychologist, social media star and author of Why Has Nobody Told Me This Before?, Dr Julie Smith.

She says when we take action on something that is important to us, it generates energy and motivation.

Dr Smith suggests you start by taking small steps towards your bigger goal, and celebrate your small achievements to encourage yourself to keep going.

2. Reward yourself

When you are low on motivation, you are often low on intrinsic motivation – that is the type that comes from within you, and is built or broken by your goals, values and sense of self. In these cases, you can ramp up the extrinsic motivation – things outside yourself, like praise or tangible rewards.

Dr Aleyet Fishbach, Professor of Behavioural Science and Marketing at the University of Chicago, Booth School of Business, and the author of GET IT DONE: Surprising Lessons from the Science of Motivation, has won international awards for her research on human motivation. She suggests that when you are facing a lack of motivation, focus on anything enjoyable. This can include remembering one element of your work that you do find enjoyable, or taking time to visualise the enjoyable outcome you will get, or making the process more enjoyable, such as listening to music while you do it.

Then, reward yourself for getting the job done well. Dr Fishbach advises against rewarding yourself for getting it done quickly, as this may lead to mistakes and reduced motivation down the line.

3. Clarify your purpose

Daniel Pink is the author of Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us.

He says the “carrot and stick” approach to motivation, as in external reward and punishment, is ineffective. It only works for small, basic tasks and does not inspire creativity, engagement, and high performance in complex, cognitive work.

Pink says we need to focus on intrinsic factors such as autonomy, mastery, and purpose.

  • Autonomy: we are in control of what we do and how we do it
  • Mastery: we are improving our skills and selves
  • Purpose: we are working towards something that is worthwhile

Purpose is one of the most powerful factors of motivation, says Pink.

He defines purpose as the desire to contribute to something greater than yourself.

That is why organisations who can communicate a shared mission and vision with their employees are more successful than others.

The Genius of Gentle Movement

7. October 2024 Mayfair (0)

What if we did not have to hammer our bodies to improve our health? What if slow, gentle movements could build healthy tissue, increase resilience and immunity and reduce stress?

Gentle yoga, also called restorative yoga or somatic yoga, goes against what many of us have been taught over the years. We have learned we need to do rigorous activity, boost our heart rate and our breathing, lift weights until we feel the burn.

So when we hear that slow, easy movements can be good for us, it is natural to be sceptical. However, evidence is growing that somatic or restorative yoga has far more benefits than first thought.

 

The proven benefits of yoga

There are dozens of rigorous scientific studies which prove the health benefits of yoga overall.

Studies have shown that different types of yoga can:

  • reduce stress and relieve anxiety: A 2018 study found that yoga may be effective as an alternative treatment for anxiety disorders.
  • help manage depression: A 2017 meta-analysis of 23 interventions concluded that yoga can be considered an effective alternative treatment for major depressive disorder.
  • reduce inflammation: A review of 15 research studies found yoga of various styles reduced the biochemical markers of inflammation across several chronic conditions.
  • boost immunity: Studies have found a distinct link between consistently practising yoga and a better immune system.
  • improve sleep: Including how quickly you fall asleep and how deeply you stay asleep.
  • stimulate brain function: A review of 34 research studies found yoga activates areas of the brain responsible for motivation, executive functioning, attention, and neuroplasticity.

Yet too often, these benefits are associated with the more performative types of yoga seen on social media: the strong head stands, the lifts, the stunning feats of strength or flexibility.

Restorative yoga offers many benefits, without the struggle. You are even encouraged to use the blankets and bolsters to make sure you are completely comfortable.

 

What is restorative yoga?

Restorative yoga involves holding a position, or a mild stretch, for a long time, often five minutes or more, while breathing deeply.

It is shown to activate your body’s relaxation response, which slows your breathing, reduces blood pressure and can produce a feeling of calm and increased well-being.

This kind of movement also activates your parasympathetic nervous system – the side of your nervous system that helps you relax and heal after periods of stress or danger.

It is designed to encourage complete physical, mental and emotional relaxation.

 

Try this restorative Child’s Pose

This classic Child’s Pose gently stretches your spine while soothing your mind. These instructions are by Brett Larkin and you can find more here:

brettlarkin.com/restorative-yoga-poses

This pose can be done on a mat or towel on the floor, or even on your bed before you go to sleep.


Step 1: Begin on your hands and knees. Open your knees hip-distance or wider.

Step 2: Bring your buttocks towards your heels and reach your arms forward, bringing your head to the floor.

Step 3: Your hands can either rest down by your feet or stack them like a pillow under your forehead.

Step 4: Rest here for up to 5 minutes.

Variations: Place a bolster lengthways in between your thighs and drape your torso and head into the bolster. Turn your head to one side to relax your neck.

1 Thing You Can Do Today

30. September 2024 Mayfair (0)

Go for a walk with your camera


In today’s fast-paced world, it can be hard to slow down, let alone smell the roses. But there is a powerful tool in your pocket that might help you create a sense of space in your daily routine.

You know that mindfulness is good for you, as is walking. Grabbing your camera and going for a walk combines the two with some impressive benefits. The positive effects of photography on mental health have become increasingly understood.

Heading out for a walk with your camera pushes you to observe your surroundings in a new and intentional way. Your curiosity and creativity are stimulated by considering the stories you can tell, what angles, light or subject matter you can choose. Your focus is drawn to small details you would otherwise pass by without noticing.

Nottingham University lecturer and researcher Lucian Milasan describes the joy of looking for that magic: ‘Taking pictures is like treasure hunting’.

Photography is an unexpected mindfulness tool you can add easily into your day. With smart phone cameras readily accessible, there is no excuse to miss capturing that unexpected angle or moment of beauty.

Eat Smarter

23. September 2024 Mayfair (0)

Tea

Sad? Glad? Mad? Put on the kettle and make a cup of tea.


In good times and bad, tea is often the go-to, but what exactly does it do for our wellbeing?

All tea comes from the same plant, “Camellia sinensis’. Tea leaves go through various processes including fermenting and drying to create the unique characteristics of your favourite brew.

Black tea is the most fermented compared with white, green and oolong teas.

The fermentation process gives each tea distinct levels of protective plant compounds called polyphenols. It is the polyphenols that are responsible for many of the health benefits of tea.

Polyphenols are thought to potentially reduce the risk of heart disease, with one study showing beneficial effects on both cholesterol and blood sugar levels. Polyphenols are also believed to reduce the risk of type 2 diabetes and cancer due to their antioxidant effects.

Drinking tea may help reduce blood pressure. Compounds in tea increase levels of nitrous oxide, a chemical that helps relax blood vessel walls.

Tea also contains a compound called I-theanine which has been shown to increase alpha waves in the brain. This may be responsible for reducing stress and anxiety. It is thought that the combination of I-theanine and caffeine in tea helps improve people’s focus and concentration.

If you are sensitive to caffeine or pregnant, then watching the amount of tea you drink is wise. Otherwise, three to four cups a day is thought to be beneficial when part of a balanced diet.

Beware of adding too much sugar or milk though as that may reduce some of the health benefits of your favourite cuppa!

Why The World Needs Highly Sensitive People

16. September 2024 Mayfair (0)

In a society that oftens feels geared toward achievement or success, sensitivity can seem like a weakness. People often associate sensitivity with someone who is fragile or easily overwhelmed. You may have been told to ‘stop being so sensitive’ or ‘toughen up to get on with it’. But research is showing that sensitivity may in fact be one of your strongest assets.

Psychologist Elaine Aaron first coined the phrase ‘highly sensitive person’, or HSP in the late 1990s. She explained that a highly sensitive person is someone who feels and sees things in a more intense way than their peers; as though the colour has been turned up in their life.


Being an HSP is not a diagnosis or an illness, instead you can think of it as a personality trait. Aaron suggested that around 15-20 per cent of the population fell into this group and interestingly, although sensitivity is often seen as a female trait, there are just as many male HSPs as female.

Research over the last 20 years has shown that there is likely a genetic component to being HSP, as well as childhood experiences that impact how those traits may develop. Functional MRI studies have shown that HSPs have significant differences in the parts of the brain that involve empathy, awareness, attention and action planning.

This gives a really good clue that HSP is not just about being ‘overly emotional’.


The benefits of being highly sensitive

We know that HSPs not only take in more information, often seeing things that others miss, but they process that information more deeply as well. HSPs often have highly developed intuition. When combined with their ability for complex analysis, this intuition can result in new and different perspectives on issues. HSPs are often very creative; both in the conventional ‘art’ sense, but also in problem solving or innovation. These are spaces where highly sensitive people can shine.

Highly sensitive people are also finely attuned to the people around them. They often connect with others easily and are typically deeply kind. While this is a strength, it can also be a bit of a downfall.

HSPs run the risk of burnout. Aaron counsels HSPs to be mindful of setting boundaries to protect their energy, and reminds them to turn their innate kindness inwards and develop strong self-compassion practices.

Perhaps because of their sensitivity and tendency to think deeply about things, HSPs also have a very strong sense of fairness and justice and will often be the ones to try and ease the pain of others; to right the wrongs they see in the world.

Society needs highly sensitive people. Their attention to detail, their compassion, creativity, their intuition and seeking of meaning. It is time we retire the phrase ‘stop being so sensitive’ and embrace it!

More Than Sleep: The 7 Types of Rest Your Body Craves

9. September 2024 Mayfair (0)

Rest has historically been defined as ‘stopping an activity for a period of time to regain or restore your strength’, but for most people these days, stopping just is not an option.

Exhaustion has become the norm for many people, who either try for a better night’s sleep hoping to fix things, or add a visit to the doctor to their to-do list.

American doctor Dr Saundra Dalton-Smith found herself in a similar situation. She tried to work out ‘what next?’ to replenish her energy and has become something of a rest expert. Dalton-Smith explains that sleep and rest are not the same thing, and that there are actually seven different types of rest we need to feel restored.

1. Physical

This may be the traditional rest of sleep or napping but can also be active rest. Activities like stretching and yoga are considered active forms of rest.

2. Mental

Signs you need more mental rest include drifting focus, feeling irritable, and not being able to switch off your racing brain at night. Building regular ‘brain breaks’ into your day might be the answer. Every one to two hours, stop for five minutes of physical movement (such as stretching), a mindfulness activity or a sensory activity such as having a drink of cold water. This is a time to relieve stress, boredom or frustration that you may not have been aware was building.

3. Sensory

We live in a very sensory-rich world and it is rare we have a moment where there is not a demand being placed on our sensory system. Simple things such as turning lights down, taking a moment to close your eyes, or using ear buds to reduce the noise can all help you rest your senses.

4. Creative

If you find yourself feeling uninspired or bored, it is a sure sign you need creative rest. Surround yourself with nature, look for the beauty in your surroundings. Fuel your imagination, shift how you approach creativity and you will be giving yourself rest in this domain.


5. Emotional

Feeling unappreciated, resentful or constantly people-pleasing? It is likely you need emotional rest. Emotional rest is not necessarily easy though. It requires you to be authentic, to share your real thoughts and feelings, even if they are not always what others want to hear.

6. Social

Social rest is like emotional rest in that it requires self-awareness, courage and boundaries. It involves prioritising relationships with others that are positive rather than giving time to relationships that exhaust you.

7. Spiritual

This relates to your sense of purpose, meaning and belonging in life. To find more spiritual rest, you need to add rather than subtract. Connecting with community, mediation, and prayer are all forms of spiritual rest.

Aim to PACE

If you are after more ways to replenish. Beyond Blue has a resource on their website that helps identify the things that improve your wellbeing. They use the framework of PACE to suggest some ideas of where to start.

Pause

Take time to reflect on your day, meditate, stretch, or take a shower or bath. Say ‘no’ to something, and practise self-compassion.

Act

Drink some water, eat something healthy, go for a walk, do yoga, have an impromptu home dance party!

Connect

Connect with nature, your pets, friends, a community group, or practise your spirituality.

Enjoy

Do a puzzle, read a book, play a word game, learn a new skill, or watch a favourite show.

Once you have identified what works for you, think about why these things work as it might help you add some new tools to your kit. Then make sure you set aside time regularly to boost your wellbeing.

Stay Sharp! 10 Ways to Keep Your Brain Healthy

2. September 2024 Mayfair (0)

Thinking about dementia may not be at the top of your mind. However, researchers are finding that about 40 per cent of dementia cases could be prevented or delayed by lifestyle measures. They have identified things you can be doing years (even decades) before you would traditionally start thinking about dementia to reduce your risk.

The World Health Organization has a set of easy-to-follow guidelines to get you started.

1. Be physically active. Engaging in aerobic exercise every day is thought to lower the risk of cognitive decline or dementia.

2. Stop smoking. Not only is giving up cigarettes good for your general health, it is great for your brain health.

3. Eat a balanced (preferably Mediterranean) diet. The Mediterranean diet is low in red meat and high in wholegrains, fruit and vegetables, fish and shellfish, nuts, olive oil and other healthy fats.


4. Reduce alcohol. It is recommended to take no more than 10 standard drinks per week to reduce your risk of alcohol-related health problems.

5. Train your brain. Think of your brain as a muscle that needs to be exercised. Try completing crossword puzzles, challenge a friend to a game of chess, or visit a museum. The idea is to keep engaged and learning.

6. Prioritise social connection. Loneliness and isolation can increase the risk of dementia. Keep your social ties strong, whether that be family or friends.

7. Keep your weight within a healthy range.

8. Manage your cardiovascular risk factors like diabetes, high blood pressure and high cholesterol. See your GP for a check-up and make sure your levels are ok.

9. Keep on top of your mental health. Depression and other mental illnesses can impact your brain function. Making sure your mood is generally positive is an important aspect of your health as you get older.

10. Keep track of your hearing and vision.

Loss of hearing or vision can contribute to dementia and its symptoms. As you age, having regular reviews are important.

Eat Like a Bird: Which Seeds to Add and Why

26. August 2024 Mayfair (0)

Seeds have played second fiddle to nuts in the nutrition stakes, but for no reason. With their impressive nutrients, culinary seeds like flax, chia, pumpkin and hemp match or even surpass nuts as a healthy addition to your diet.

Rich in fibre, healthy fats, protein and essential vitamins, minerals and antioxidants, seeds contain all the nutrients needed to develop into plants – which is why they are so good for you too.

You cannot go wrong whatever seeds you choose, but if you are looking for a particular benefit, here are the ones that top the list.


Best for fibre? Chia seeds

Most people do not get enough fibre in their diet. We need 25 to 30 grams a day, and adding seeds to your meal is a simple way to up your intake. A 30g serving (about three tablespoons) of chia seeds contains 10g of fibre. The same amount of linseeds contains 8g of fibre, and 30g of pumpkin seeds contains 5g of fibre.

The fibre in chia seeds is mainly soluble fibre and mucilage, which gives chia the ability to swell in liquid. These fibres may help lower LDL (“bad”) cholesterol and slow down digestion, which can prevent blood sugar spikes after eating and help you feel full. Add chia seeds to your smoothies, Bircher muesli, and as an egg replacement in vegan cake recipes.

 

Highest in protein? Hemp seeds

Our need for protein depends on factors including age, weight and activity level. And even if we get enough protein, we may not spread out our intake evenly over three meals as recommended. Adding any seeds to muesli or smoothies will increase protein at breakfast and sprinkled over soups or salads will boost protein at lunch or dinner. Snacking on seeds can up your protein throughout the day.

Hemp seeds contain 9.5g protein per 30g and are one of the few plants that are complete protein sources, meaning they contain all the essential amino acids your body needs.

Pumpkin seeds have 6g protein per 30g while linseeds (flaxseeds), sesame and chia each have 5g per 30g. For comparison, one large egg contains 6g protein.

 

Richest in Omega 3 fats? Linseeds

Omega-3 fatty acids can reduce inflammation, decrease blood triglycerides and may even reduce the risk of dementia. Fatty fish are the richest source, but plant foods also contain omega-3 fats, in the form of alpha-linolenic acid (ALA).

Your body has to convert ALA to other Omega-3 fats to get the health benefits, so if you do not eat animal sources of omega-3, you should aim to consume 2200-4400mg ALA per day.

Linseeds contain a generous 7050mg of ALA per 30g. Chia comes a close second with 5400mg while a 30g serving of hemp seeds has 2600mg ALA. It is best to grind the seeds to get the maximum ALA.

What is LSA?

LSA is a mix of linseed, sunflower and almond meal that adds a burst of potent nutrients to whatever you sprinkle it over.

 

2 seed staples for your pantry

Pumpkin (pepitas): a good source of magnesium, zinc, phosphorus and iron, pumpkin seeds are a great allrounder, versatile and delicious toasted as a snack.

Sunflower: contains good levels of monounsaturated and Omega-6 fats, as well as being a rich source of vitamin E and selenium, both potent antioxidants.

Make a tasty snack by dry roasting half a cup each of pumpkin and sunflower seeds in a frying pan, stirring regularly. Once the pumpkin seeds start to pop, remove the pan from the heat and quickly stir through one tablespoon of tamari or salt reduced soy sauce to coat all the seeds. Enjoy warm or cold.

The Protective Powers of Stretching

19. August 2024 Mayfair (0)

Whether you are a dedicated athlete, just do occasional exercise, or are just looking for a way to improve your health and fitness, stretching is a free and accessible way to care for your body and your mind.

Stretching is all too often one of those things we rush past or overlook when considering an exercise plan. It feels a but like an optional extra, without any clear benefits. Recent research is challenging those thoughts, and it seems as though you might be missing more than you thought if you are skipping your stretches.

Human movement relies on nerves, muscles, bones and joints. In particular, the muscles around joints like your ankles, knees, hips, shoulders and elbows are responsible for a lot of your day-to-day function. Tight muscles can reduce movement around your joints and cause a muscle imbalance that has a flow on effect of increasing your risk of injury.

Stretching has been shown to have benefits that extend beyond muscle movement, through:

1. Improved range of movement.

Better range of movement through joints results in more comfortable and efficient function.

2. Increased flexibility.

It is not just about being able to touch your toes. Increased flexibility is associated with improved balance and a reduced risk of injury.

3. Improved mood and focus.

A 2019 study showed stretching enhanced concentration and mood in a small group of young, physically inactive participants. Other studies have shown a reduction in stress. Taking time to slow down, tune into your body and release tension has benefits beyond the muscle group you are stretching.

4. Cardiovascular health.

This may seem unexpected, but two large studies (2020, 2023) have shown that daily stretching programs improve the function of blood vessels that carry blood away from the heart, lower resting heart rate and blood pressure, and are associated with lower rates of death.


Stretching can be divided into two main types: static and dynamic. When you do a static stretch, you move your muscle to a point of tension and then hold that position for a period of time without moving. The benefit of static stretching is that less force is being applied to the muscle so there is a lower risk of injury. Dynamic stretching involves moving the muscle through its full range and then repeating that movement.

 

What, when, where and how to stretch?

Generally speaking, you want to make sure your stretching program covers most muscle groups rather than focusing on a single area.

The muscles that are responsible for your balance and mobility are mostly in your lower limbs: the gluteal muscles, hamstrings (back of your leg), quadriceps (front of thigh), and calf muscles all benefit from a stretch.

If you spend a lot of time sitting or in front of a screen, focusing on your lower back, neck and shoulder stretches can reduce discomfort and improve your posture.

To get the most out of stretching, make sure your muscles are warmed up first – this can be done with a short walk.

  • Move into the stretch, stopping at the point at which you first feel discomfort (not pain).
  • Hold this pose for 30 seconds then release.
  • Repeat this action 2-4 times.
  • Never bounce while in a stretch, this ballistic form of stretching is associated with a high injury rate and is not recommended.

Eat Smarter

12. August 2024 Mayfair (0)

Avocado

The avocado can lay claim to being the original food celebrity. Few cafes do not offer smashed avocado on toast for brunch, and its bright green hue and rich creamy texture makes avocado a favourite for wellness bloggers.


But avocado is far more than a pretty colour.

Healthy fats. Avocado is the only fruit apart from olives to be rich in healthy, monounsaturated fats. These can help reduce bad cholesterol levels in your blood, lowering your risk of heart disease and stroke. They also help you absorb essential fat-soluble nutrients such as vitamin E, promote healthy skin, and help you maintain a healthy weight.

Fibre. Do not be misled by their creamy texture. Avocados are a rich source of fibre, with 14 grams in each one, about half the recommend daily amount of 25-30 grams. Getting enough fibre every day feeds the healthy bacteria in your digestive system.

Added benefits. Vitamins C, E, K and the B group, and the minerals magnesium, potassium, copper and manganese are all essential for your brain and body to function at its best. A daily avocado provides them all. What is more, avocados are packed with bioactive compounds including carotenoids such as lutein (important for eye health) and phenolic compounds, which have antioxidant and anti-inflammatory effects.